Self care has become a buzzword and like most buzzwords the true meaning of it gets lost. Everywhere you look you can find someone talking about self care and telling you how important it is to practice it. There's even a hashtag to get you to dedicate time every week, #SelfcareSunday, anyone? There are so many myths about what self care is so i decided to play a quick game of myth busters and set the record straight.
Here are 5 of the most common misconceptions about self care:
Myth #1 Self care costs money.
Truth: You don’t have to spend a dime to take care of yourself. Self care isn’t cosmetic its intuitive. Here’s a list of 65 ways you can take care of you and most of them are FREE >>>Grab Yours Here<<<
Myth #2 Self care is optional.
Truth: Absolutely not! I want you guys to take a moment and really think about how can taking care of yourself be optional. It’s call self care for a reason, YOU NEED IT. Not taking care of yourself will only lead you to burnout.
Myth #3 Self care takes a lot of time.
Truth: Self care is not about the amount of time it is about consistently responding to what you need. It can take as little or as much time as you desire. Self care is often over complicated which is why we believe we don’t have time for it. Self care can be sitting down and watching a show or it could be as simple as taking a shower (yes bathing is self care!)
Myth #4 Self care encompasses certain things.
Truth: What works for others may not work for you. Self care is about what you need. Addressing that looks different from everyone. While I am an advocate for meditation if it’s not your thing do something else. It’s about YOU
Myth #5 Self care is anything that makes you feel good.
Truth: This is a half truth. While you should feel good taking care of you some things are harmful to your mind body and spirit. Drinking or doing drugs to escape the stresses of everyday life is not self care. Wine is considered a drink so be cautious with calling this self care. This could be a form of suppression which is not health. Self care all about is healthy practices.
Self care is non-negotiable in my life. I live by the me, first principle. I've come to understand that if I don't take care of me I can't take care of my children to my highest potential, I can't show up for my clients at my highest potential, I can't support my husband fully; if I'm not at my best. So, every single day I start with me first. This is why I made wellness/spiritual care my mission!
It has become an option instead of a priority for way too many women and it's time to change that!
I have a check in system--I ask myself "How are you feeling?" then I answer honestly and I either keep going about my day or adjust. This has worked wonders for me. It allowed me to take time to get in my body. So often we are on auto pilot and that doesn't allow us to know how we're truly feeling. My daily ritual differs from day to day by prayer, meditation, and reflective journaling is always a part of. I crave change, so this is why I can't repeat the same ritual everyday. I do what works for me and you have to do what works for you.